The Crisis Center of Northern NM helped Amber escape from violence, gain control of her life, and regain the freedom to make her own decisions.
Amber, a young mother of two small children, Felice (6) and Jacob (4), was trapped in a violent home where she was humiliated and physically abused. Her life was not what she had dreamed. Her daily routine disguised the terrible abuse she suffered from her husband. She had “married him out of love” and she felt “it was love that carried them through hardships” she told the Victim Advocate. As she told her story, she realized more and more how relieved she was to be at the Crisis Center.
CPS urged her to look for help in dealing with violence in her life. We met Amber when she called the Crisis Center’s 24 hour crisis line. She had decided to seek shelter because of a violent incident that had ended with the police at her house. We helped her think of a safe way to get away without risking her or her children’s well-being. With great resolve, but also a lot of sadness, Amber gathered her things and decided to leave her house. She took the chance to escape when her perpetrator was not at home.
Her abuse story is far from the unusual. He demanded she serve him in all the ways a human being should not ever have to endure. Adding to the humiliation and pain, he pulled her from all the important people in her life; her mother, and sisters would never know the secrets she had to keep. She was alone and isolated. She was a prisoner without any sense of how to start controlling her own decisions; but as the victim advocates helped her understand all the things she had gone through, she started feeling more hopeful.
The Crisis Center provided Amber with a safe haven where she could start to understand what her next steps should be. She was empowered with understanding of her situation, and of herself worth. The sessions with the advocates helped Amber understand the world differently. The Crisis Center connected her to invaluable community resources such as education, and career opportunities. She used all the time she spent in the Center to build the foundation for her future and find a healthier safer way to construct a life.
Using the Rapid Re-Housing program, the Crisis Center ensured she had a stable home after she decided to leave shelter. Amber is enrolled in school and also keeps a job. These two are important pieces that help her stay away from her violent perpetrator. She shows her children her strengths everyday by making the most of her opportunities. She is still supported by the Crisis Center with services that help her heal and maintain confidence. It helps to have an ally that knows what you have been through. With each passing day Amber and her children take a step away from violence and abuse.